Regarding Shandi, I think her big mistake was telling her boyfriend in the first place. I think that in situations like this, telling just burdens the other person with it. Plus, I get the feeling that Shandi will continue to do this kind of thing, so if she doesn't learn to keep it quiet, she'll have a neverending cycle of fucking up, telling him, him berating her, her feeling like crap, and him eventually forgiving her while she feels like she's not worth it. That cycle will just feed her low self-esteem.
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Date: 2004-03-18 03:00 pm (UTC)Regarding Shandi, I think her big mistake was telling her boyfriend in the first place. I think that in situations like this, telling just burdens the other person with it. Plus, I get the feeling that Shandi will continue to do this kind of thing, so if she doesn't learn to keep it quiet, she'll have a neverending cycle of fucking up, telling him, him berating her, her feeling like crap, and him eventually forgiving her while she feels like she's not worth it. That cycle will just feed her low self-esteem.