turn-ons and turn-offs / free stuff redux
Jan. 13th, 2005 02:25 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
There's a thread going on in a stranger's journal about what Anonymous Anyone hates about fandom. There are some names named, but it's mostly bitching about general categories of people who 'ship one way or another, write men as girls, etc., and it is mostly Buffy-related, so I don't recognize many of the people who aren't going anon. I'm wondering how this thread is any different from just bitching in your own LJ under your own name. I certainly understand that if you're going to attempt to harpoon a BNF, you might enjoy the anon, but if you're just complaining about 'ships...who cares? Or is that a huge issue in Buffy fandom? Like, if you pick the wrong 'ship, it will go on your permanent record, and thus your opportunities in life will be diminished? Unfortunately, the converse doesn't seem to be true, and picking the "correct" 'ship never delivers the riches and acclaim that really ought to be forthcoming from involvement in a pyramid scheme of media-derivative bickering. Or maybe it's only the BNFs at the top who benefit...you should have gotten in on the game sooner.
If there have been those kind of wars in SV, I missed them. Not that we haven't had plenty of stupid wanks in SV, but I just don't remember this particular version. If you 'ship Lex/Lana, you won't get as much attention or understanding as those who 'ship Clark/Lex, but it seems more likely that you'll be ignored than villified for thinking that way. Not that being ignored feels nice, but it's usually fairly neutral in intent.
Bitching is easy. But so is being positive.
Thinks I Like About Fandom:
So, whatever.
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Also, I added a few more FREE things to my last post. See if there's something you want.
If there have been those kind of wars in SV, I missed them. Not that we haven't had plenty of stupid wanks in SV, but I just don't remember this particular version. If you 'ship Lex/Lana, you won't get as much attention or understanding as those who 'ship Clark/Lex, but it seems more likely that you'll be ignored than villified for thinking that way. Not that being ignored feels nice, but it's usually fairly neutral in intent.
Bitching is easy. But so is being positive.
Thinks I Like About Fandom:
- Source material. When it's good, it's really, really good, and when it's bad, it's horrid. But usually pretty, which is why it still has fans despite the quality issues ;) In fact, often the more horrid the source, the better the fandom.
- Community. Hmmm...I'm a woman who likes to read "erotica" about two guys gettin' it on. I wonder where I could meet other women who share my interest without ending up in a chat room talking to a dubious "woman" who will end up stalking me? That place would be fandom. Finding other commonalities with fans makes it even better, but simply having one weird/perverted/dirty thing in common with hundreds and hundreds of people is...validating.
- Encouragement and Support. Write, post, get responses. Do art, post, get responses. Prove to yourself that you can produce material people are interested in. Try new things. Improve through doing more work. Meet other people who do similar work, then discuss and/or collaborate. And if you whine about your life every now and then, people tend to sympathize.
- Inclusion. Anyone can play. It's more chaotic than democratic, but it's open, at any rate. I know there are jerks who do try to keep others "out" or curtail other fans' involvement, but it's really not possible to quash someone entirely if they're determined to participate. Everyone can find someplace within fandom, as involved or uninvolved as they wish to be.
- Insidious cross-breeding. My next potential fandom or burning passion may be as close as my f-list.
So, whatever.
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Also, I added a few more FREE things to my last post. See if there's something you want.
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Date: 2005-01-13 09:52 pm (UTC)Also, I think you're giving people too much credit for decency when you wonder why they don't just complain in their own journals. People like to complain anonymously because they're cowardly - not just about something tangible like BNFs, but even about expressing their own ideas/opinions. I haven't seen this latest example of pettiness, but in general group hate-fests aren't even bitching about valid things. They're just venting for the soul pleasure it gives them, with no regard to the targets or victims of their vitriol (checking your compunctions at the door is part of the fun, of course). Plus! They get to do it in a group for maximum self-validation.
Wow... do I sound terribly jaded? Let me temper the above by saying that I don't think the participants in these kind of kerfluffles are necessarily "bad" people. We've all got a bit of nasty in us. ;)
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Date: 2005-01-13 10:36 pm (UTC)Heh. I can't remember the person "hosting" the thread, actually. It's somewhere back in my f-list, through someone else's post...
As for giving people credit for decency...I don't think I do give much credit for that. I have a fairly tepid opinion of most people, and definitely don't have high hopes for the behavior of people acting in groups. I guess I just don't understand the seemingly rampant fear of expressing one's opinions in an honest way. I feel like I'm very opinionated, but I don't get in "trouble" for that, or at least never receive responses that feel particularly threatening to me. I would much rather that people like or dislike me for things I have said or done instead of basing their opinions on assumptions about my position or on who I'm friends with.
Of course, I don't go around telling people that I dislike them, but that's because it would serve no purpose except for stirring up shit. I mean, if I tell someone I don't like them, do I expect them to do something about that? Would I even like/appreciate it if they did?
Gah. I'm doing my "why don't people make more sense?" speech. And maybe I'm a big hypocrite, because when someone bugs me, I filter them instead of defriending (sometimes temporary, sometimes not). My intention is to avoid irritation, not to keep someone else from reading the few friends-only posts in my journal if they want to do so.
Fandom has been really...different for me. I was always the butt of group attacks in RL, had few friends, was considered very strange, etc. Here on LJ and in SV fandom, I was a very popular writer for quite some time. For all I know, I'm still regarded fondly. However, being on the popular side of the equation didn't made me any more able to understand groupthink or time-wasting social backbiting.
So, I don't get it. My petty jealousies and dislikes in fandom shame me. They're the sort of things I'll admit to people I know and trust in RL, but here on LJ I don't even want to share them anonymously.
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Date: 2005-01-13 10:53 pm (UTC)LOL! Wow. I do my own version of that speech all the time.
They just don't.
Le sigh. :)
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Date: 2005-01-13 11:02 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-01-13 11:20 pm (UTC)Hmm. *eyes you up and down*
This world ain't big enough for the two of us.
*g*